Take a moment to think about who you blame for your feelings of hurt, anger, resentment, aloneness, emptiness, loneliness, helplessness, inadequacy, shame, depression, anxiety, fear, and so on What is really going on inside when you blame someone else for your feelings

"…telling children they're smart…made them feel dumber and act dumber" --Mindset, by Carol S

"Sooner or later, all of us must see that negative feelings toward another person is like tossing dust at him while the wind blows against us It all comes back

Our society is filled with verbal and emotional abuse, from radio and TV commentators and presidential candidates, to parents, educators, employers and managers As Patricia Evans states in "The Verbally Abusive Relationship", the old adage, "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me," is not at all true

As social beings, our desire for connection is a deep and powerful force within us Babies who do not experience connection with a caregiver do not thrive or may even die

Is your marriage in trouble The first question you need to ask yourself is: "Do I want to save this marriage or do I want to leave it

William grew up with a mother who was depressed much of her life As the oldest of three children with a father who was not around much, William took on a lot of responsibility for his mother's wellbeing

Many people have the ability to truly care and receive joy when caring from the heart Yet even very caring people sometimes find themselves using caring as a form of control

"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting

"…no one ever pushes you toward freedom You need to take that for yourself